Irresistible Romance: Thoughtful Gifts, Compromising, and More

The dictionary’s cut-and-dry definition-wise when it comes to romance. In my book, this simple word means romance plus a little more. Someone romantic is:

Realistic

Originative

Meaningful

Attentive

Near when not needed

Thoughtful

Irresistible Without Intimacy

Compromising

Realistic: The boyfriend I conjured up when puberty hit was more accurate than my current options. But, in all seriousness, when I talk about being realistic, I’m delving into the relationship side. It’s about being honest and reasonable about what we want from a relationship, which can be reassuring and grounding.

Originative: I like to think sweethearts who keep the love alive have a certain amount of originality in their romance. Instead of buying chocolates and flowers for my birthday, perhaps clean the kitchen, bake my favorite gooey brownies, and then clean the kitchen again. Or, I would be willing to toss the Rom-Com tickets and go all out for a night of chips, cheese, and cheering for his favorite team. In fact, a little creativity goes a long way.

Meaningful: This aspect goes beyond material gifts. It’s about acts of service, words of affirmation, physical touch, or a combination of these. Cooking rice omelettes for dinner and then guiding me in making my own. Taking a moment to hug me and affirm what you love about me and our relationship. These gestures make me feel appreciated and loved.

Attentive: It’s about knowing that my boyfriend is truly listening and understanding what I say, even if all he does is nod. Maintaining eye contact, without any distractions in the background, is crucial. When I feel that I am truly heard, it brings a sense of stability and understanding to our relationship.

Near when not needed: This next one is a bit cheesy, and yes, I can smell the fromage. Most women like to know they can count on their significant other, lover, or confidant to be available through emotional or physical means. Even if comfort is not needed at that moment. Am I saying men cannot have bad days and that every moment of their lives must be full of blow pops and unicorns? Most definitely not. All I am asking is that you love me, keep me, and only occasionally leave me.

Thoughtful gifts: Gifts are not everything, but sometimes one can get across a level of affection. Presents chosen out of consideration hold the highest value regardless of price. For instance, building a writing desk for your author-in-training girlfriend or offering to go hiking with your camp-bound boyfriend despite being terrified of bugs.

Irresistible Without Intimacy: What comes to mind when irresistibility and intimacy are on the table? While I’m certain 92.9% of your minds wandered off the gutter and landed on sins that would make a demon blush, the other 7.1% of readers settled on the other forms – more specifically, experiential. Experiential intimacy refers to engaging in leisure activities for the sake of bonding. Dress up and go to a Star Wars movie, indulge in a favorite recipe together, and start a DIY project for your pet rabbit. You’d be surprised how attractive someone can be outside of the bedroom.

Compromising: Meeting each other halfway can be challenging, especially regarding things we don’t like (i.e. washing dishes, watching Horror movies/shows, cleaning the cat’s litter box, but I digress). Compromise keeps things healthy and, best of all, romantic. Take Horror movies, for example: Say I have a boyfriend who loves horror TV shows, but I want to watch Rom-Com movies. Instead of arguing or not watching anything at all, we may watch an action flick. Or, we could agree to watch his film, and I get all the cuddles I want during said show. You never know.